I had a conversation with a girl the other day that completely frustrated me. She keep describing the idea of virtual reality sex (or porn) as completely disgusting and inappropriate. Judge for yourself, but this how the conversation went (I’m paraphrasing from memory):
Me: Have you heard of Oculus Rift?
Girl: No, what’s that?
Me: It’s a new virtual reality device that allows you to play games in a virtual world, also great for simulated sex.
Girl: That’s nasty!
Me: What’s so nasty about that?
Girl: Anyone using virtual reality to “get off” is sick.
Me: How the hell does this make someone sick. Not everyone has a partner and for some people it’s not that easy to find someone to be with. They still have the same needs as everyone else, just not the same ability to find someone that is attracted to them.
Girl: So that makes it ok to jerk off to virtual sex robots online?
Me: I don’t understand what’s so wrong about this. Unfortunately some guys just can’t get a girlfriend, and although they may be great guys with good personalities, jobs and even money, most women won’t give them a shot because the may be considered a “nerd”.
Me: I don’t really understand why normal sexual desires and needs need to be considered “sick thoughts”. These guys are no different than most other guys. The only real difference is that they don’t have a girlfriend or a wife to have sex with.
Girl: I just don’t think it’s normal.
Me: What do you consider normal?
Girl: A guy and a girl in a relationship with a healthy sexual relationship.
Me: That may be common, but it doesn’t mean enjoying a sexual experience online makes you a freak of society. Would you rather these guys keep their sexual needs all bottled up?
Girl: I don’t care what they do as long as they stay away from me.
Me: I give up….
The conversation didn’t end well and we decided to agree to disagree. What I really wanted to make her understand, which might have been impossible because it’s often hard for woman to understand a man’s sexual turn ons, was that some guys simply don’t have a partner to have sex with which helps fulfill their sexual needs. For these guys that find it difficult to meet woman something like immersive Oculus porn could be something healthy and sexually satisfying. As long as no one is being hurt, which seems like much less exploitation would be possible with virtual porn, nothing should be wrong with enjoying virtual erotica.
What do you think? If virtual porn sick? Should we be ashamed of masturbating to virtual 3d models? Does this make us sick?